We all wrestle with the judgment and disapproval voices that tell us we re not good enough or criticize our plans and dreams. I like to call this the ” Committee” – a group of unruly fears and limiting beliefs competing for our attention and keeping us stuck in life. They often assemble when we are stretching ourselves and seem to sit on our shoulder and whisper lies into our hearts and minds. What I have come to realize about the Committee is we can choose to not believe what it tells us, but only once we recognize its voices and consciously decide to stop giving it power. Here is how you can begin to do that.
The first step is to identify when the Committee is in session. I have three techniques to help with this process. Notice when you are thinking about changes you want to make in life or a heartfelt dream you would love to see come to fruition.. Do you find yourself saying “Yes, but…” or “No, because …”? The excuses why you can’t move forward come from the Committee. Determine if they really are true, who says they are true, and what would happen if they were not true. Also, look at the failure story you tell yourself to justify why you haven’t succeeded in past endeavors. I bet that story embodies several voices from the Committee – you don’t deserve to reach your goals, you aren’t good enough, you are lazy, etc. Finally, look at the tapes from your childhood that play over and over again in your mind. Parents or teachers may be responsible for setting limits on our potential in the guise of protecting us from disappointment. Try these techniques to uncover the voices that tell you why you can’t live the life of your dreams.
Once you know those voices, have some fun giving them their pink slip. Decide that their lies will not keep you immobile any longer. Proactively kick them out of your mind and heart. Remind yourself of the truth of who you are – a talented person who is supported by a wise and loving Source. Acknowledge the falsity of the Committee’s commentary, and do something to fire the Committee once and for all. Try writing their lies on a piece of paper and set that paper on fire. Or, attach those lies to a helium balloon and release it to the skies. A final idea is to write down its judgments and criticisms on a piece of toilet paper and give it a ceremonial flush. Whichever technique you try, visualize that release when the Committee tries to reconvene. Don’t let it worm its way back into your thoughts – it is no longer welcome!