When I heard this week is the 25th anniversary of the tearing down of the Berlin Wall in East Germany, it stopped me in my tracks. You see not only was that a momentous event in world history, but it was also a life changing time in my life. That very weekend 25 years ago I traveled from Los Angeles to Morro Bay for what I thought would be a getaway to unwind a bit from my stressful job as a prosecutor for the City of Los Angeles. It turned out to be so much more. I fell in love with the Central Coast of California and began taking charge of my life, making changes where necessary, and beginning to injoy my life more.
What I now realize looking back at the weekend is that I began the process of tearing down my own inner wall – my preconceived idea of how my life and my career was supposed to go. I do recall watching the events in East Berlin on the hotel room television, with President Reagan proclaiming “tear down this wall!” I also remember asking myself if it might be possible to move to the area, look for a new job, and enjoy a different lifestyle in a smaller town. I understand how important it was for me to break through the wall of what I thought I should do and follow my heart along a new life path.
Since then I have torn down many walls in my life – ultimately leaving the law, taking a one-year break to travel and unwind, relocating to southern Utah, and starting a whole new career as a life coach, author and speaker. Each time it has been scary, but I have found one thing to be true. When the fear of staying stuck and walled in by a life that no longer fits me becomes greater than the fear of change and what lies ahead, I am ready to tear down those walls. This is what I know to be my tipping point. I think that is what the citizens of East Germany must have felt 25 years ago. They feared staying closed in behind the wall more than they feared what their government might do to them if they started to tear it down.
Over the past month I began tearing down another wall, namely the one that says I have to grow my business by following the social media and marketing gurus who promise huge numbers of followers and million dollar incomes. Even while I was attending their webinars and following their Facebook posts, I knew this did not feel right. I tried to convince myself it was just what I had to do. Fortunately I found a better answer – slow marketing and building real relationships. To find out more, check out this blog post from my new mentor, Tea Silvestre of Story Bistro. Over the next few months you will be hearing more about what I am learning and the new programs I will be offering to reach out to you – my wonderful Injoy Life Community.